Finalizing our save the dates have us in a final guest list tizzy. It's a hard thing, narrowing down the list to the people that you feel MUST be with you on this special day. For us, we'd always thought we'd have a small, intimate affair. But when you start listing the people (and their spouses, children, etc.) that you feel should be at your small intimate affair...the list gets a little nuts, a little quickly.
And so we've been cutting. The first to go, unfortunately, were most of the kids on our list. There are children in our families attending (of course), and then a few children that are like family to us. Our flower girls, for instance, are children that are as close to us as our nieces and nephews, and we see them all the time.
We're finding it very hard to deal with cutting out other kids though. My fiance, for instance, is extremely torn with the issue of having to tell certain people they cannot bring their children to our special day. As a kid, I remember NEVER being invited to weddings...it just wasn't done. He, however, had a very different experience growing up, and it's hard for BOTH of us to figure out the polite way to do it. How do you tell people that you love that although you enjoy their children, you don't enjoy them enough to allow them to join you for your wedding?
We started the delicate process of telling people last night, and luckily, 2 of our closest friends took it VERY well. We're trying to explain to people that we're hoping that our wedding can be a fun night out for our adult friends. One where they don't have to chase around their kids, wondering where in the world on our 12 acre property they've run off to, in the dark.
Oh, and mentioning that they have from now til August to find a babysitter seemed to help. :)
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